As a child, I followed the example of others. I never set my own goals or made my own impressions. I didn’t believe in the old saying “You can go anyplace, as long as your mind is set to it.” I was a lazy person who just sailed through life without putting much effort into it. Now, I see that I can go far in my life if I put every ounce of my body, mind, and soul into the task at hand.
As the youngest of four sisters, I was always inspired by my sisters growing up and wanted to be like them. I would hear them tell me that it was impossible for me to do ‘this’ and ‘that’. As time went by, I started to believe them more. This is because I did not achieve enough to make ends meet in my life. Although I was a good student, I didn’t think twice about getting involved in extracurricular activities. I lack the self-motivation and self-confidence that it takes to succeed. Instead, I would return home and concentrate my attention on other entertainments, such as television or gaming. As I grew up, I was more independent and could complete most tasks without my family. Despite my efforts to find motivation, I was still lacking the confidence and drive to achieve greater goals.
I started working in a restaurant chain called Which Wich Superior Sandwiches, Cumming, Georgia, after I had graduated from high school. Although I knew that I wanted to go to college, I didn’t know if I could afford it. So I set my sights on another goal. It wouldn’t be an easy goal. I wanted to buy a car. My older sister, who was a car-addicted woman, taught me that I wanted to be in a position to purchase a car. While I was aware that this would require a lot of savings, I knew it would be one step closer towards being free. I was driven by this thought day after day.
After five long months of working eight-hour, sometimes 10-hour shifts, my chance finally came after having worked for almost every day. This morning, I woke up knowing what tasks I wanted to accomplish that day. It was December twenty-third 2010. It was freezing. My debit card was in my hand, and my mother and I packed into her car. It was both nervous and exciting. My uncle was going to be there so that he could inspect the car before we made the big purchase. We had to stop at the bank after meeting my uncle. We were soon on our way when I withdrew all the money needed to buy my car. We chatted, we listened, but the 25 minutes it took to get to our destination felt like an hour. We walked together to the front desk to speak with the seller. After I explained to him that I wanted to buy the Chevy Cavalier he had parked out front of me, he continued to pull out paperwork. After everything was completed, I went outside to take a final look at my car before giving the money. After I was done, my mom looked at me knowing that it was finally time. Nervously, I counted the money for the gentleman. One hundred, two hundred, one thousand and so forth until I had reached the total. I thanked him and he gave me two sets keys. I was eager to get behind the wheel of my new car. I smiled big and opened the door to my new car. After inserting the key in the ignition, and turning gently, the engine started up with a soft roar. It was the first time I felt happier knowing that this was all my work. The car was mine, it was insured in my name and I paid the entire cost.
Now, I see that no matter what other people tell me, it doesn’t really matter what I do. It all depends on my belief in myself. After buying my car, I realized that I could do anything in life. All I needed was the courage and motivation to pursue it. Although I struggle with my self-confidence, it is something I try to overcome every day. To achieve these goals, all I have to do is believe in myself that I can accomplish them and not allow anyone to take it away.
Narrative about My Life
I feel privileged. Because I was loved from the start, I am profoundly and unequivocally privileged. I was loved and supported.
My parents were both born in Southern India to very conservative families. My grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, first cousins, and even the dog next to me were all extremely religious, traditional, sexist and cliche-ridden. Science may say that parents pass most of their traits on to their children. However, my parents are living proof that this is not true. My parents are not like my grandparents. They’re actually the exact opposite.
My parents moved from India to the United States. It was very difficult for me to adjust to my new surroundings. Even though I was accepted into school, I felt different from everyone else. This eventually led to me feeling less educated. I hated school and learning. When I was younger, I let my parents down more than I’d like to admit. My parents believed in me since childhood, regardless of whether I was unable to get the grades I wanted or not working as hard or lying about my work.
My parents were not my parents. I was able to see the physical and verbal abuse my parents gave my cousins when they visited India. My aunts and uncles don’t have to be horrible parents. Their parenting style is not only inept, but a bit archaic. The most important thing a parent can do for their children is to love, support, and guide them to be the best they can. Unfortunately, this is not an Indian concept.
My parents were completely different from my cousins’ parents, which I found quite surprising. My aunts and uncles were impatient and strict, while my parents were kind and compassionate. That was the moment I realized how fortunate I was. The following year, I was able to pull myself together and started working hard at school. I would do my homework, and I would complete extra credit problems. This was quite remarkable for a fifth grader. I was rekindling my love for learning and hunger for more. Every day I went to school eager to learn, and every day I left feeling fulfilled.
Because of my upbringing, I have learned to be happy and see things from a positive perspective throughout my life. I am passionate, hardworking and ambitious. Most importantly, I have a wonderful family. My family loves to laugh, have fun and enjoy life to its fullest. My dad is positive and always wants to make people laugh, no matter what. My mom also has some advice that I can use in every area of my life. I have benefited from the values that my parents instilled in me in many ways. These values have helped me grow in every aspect of my life. My parents did not limit my ambitions, but encouraged me to strive higher and achieve the best in my life. My life philosophy is based on hard work because of their support. They are my greatest source of inspiration and I will be forever grateful for their support.